How to Handle Imposter Syndrome

Here’s something we haven’t discussed recently: how to handle imposter syndrome. If you’re not familiar with imposter syndrome, it’s that lovely feeling that you’re successful because you’re tricking everyone about your intelligence or insights, that you’re the recipient of incredible luck to have come this far, and that any day now someone will figure you out and have you booted out of the office or classroom. *Cough.* Not to be too specific or anything. Imposter syndrome has been on my mind lately because I read this great anecdote in Forbes about a lobster at a court party:

[Elizabeth] Gilbert writes [in Big Magic*] about an American striving to break into the French art world when he finds himself invited to a costume party at a castle filled with French aristocrats.

He spends a week meticulously assembling an elaborate ensemble, only to drive three hours to the party and realize he had missed a key detail: the theme of the party was “a medieval court”, and he was dressed as a lobster.

Much like the beloved protagonist in Legally Blonde, instead of running away in embarrassment, he rocked his costume, complete with red tights, face paint and giant foam claws. With all the confidence and charm he could muster, he bowed deeply to the assembled royalty and introduced himself as the court lobster. They loved him. He quickly became a celebrated guest of the event, ultimately dancing with the Queen of Belgium.

(* Affiliate link. Pictured at top: lobster costume for your office Halloween party, anyone? This one is $60 at Amazon (affiliate link). There’s also this fetching lobster hat (affiliate link).)

The Forbes article goes on to recommend that we apply “Court Lobster Strategy” in our own lives, building our confidence and feeling empowered “through a sense of playfulness and courageous action in spite of our moments of doubt.”

I love this attitude! As I’ve gotten older I definitely find myself aligning with Tina Fey’s quote about realizing that “almost everyone is a fraud, so I try not to feel too bad about it.” I also tend to be of the “bluster through as best you can” mentality — which we’ve talked about before with the idea about saying yes to work you’re not ready for. (Another great Tina Fey quote here: “Say yes and figure it out later.”)

I’d love to hear from you guys: What are your best tips for how to handle imposter syndrome? Some other common tips for imposter syndrome that I’ve read before are below…

  1. Recognize it in yourself and others. Dr. Valerie Young has identified five different kinds of people who suffer from imposter syndrome, and this Muse article suggests ways to deal with each flavor. As Gill Corkindale has written for the Harvard Business Review, imposter syndrome may be linked with perfectionism — feeling as if you “must not fail,” feeling like a fake or undeserving of success because somehow “others have been deceived into thinking otherwise.” New York even has a test to find out how bad you’re suffering from imposter syndrome.
  2. Remind yourself it’s normal to not know everything, and that if you’re new at something or doing something for the first time, it’s ok to have a learning curve.
  3. Focus on how much you’re learning — not how you’re “performing.” As professor Andy Molinsky writes in Harvard Business Review, working to cultivate a learning mindset helps you experience your limitations “quite differently. Your mistakes are seen as an inevitable part of the learning process rather than as more evidence of your underlying failings.” Another tip here: Remind yourself how far you’ve come and what you’ve already learned.
  4. Focus on what problems you solve or skills you bring. This tip comes to us from Kate White via Natalie Dormer (as reported in Forbes): Focus on what you can bring to the situation or how you can solve a problem, instead of how you’ll look and sound and what people might think.

How about you, ladies: What are your best tips on how to handle imposter syndrome? Do you feel like you’ve been able to move through your issues dealing with imposter syndrome, or do you feel like it’s a work in progress? What tricks for handling imposter syndrome work the best for you? 

Psst: you may want to check out our previous articles about executive presence for women, applying for jobs when you meet less than 100% of the listed job requirements, and how to move past career hiccups and mistakes you’ve made.

How Much Do You Mix It Up?

I was going out somewhere recently, and I overshot the mark on makeup — I wanted to do more than my daily makeup look, but less than my evening/date night/party look, and landed up far too close to my “party look.” So I got curious, and thought it might be a fun discussion for today: how much do you vary your makeup for different occasions — and how much do you vary your looks within those situations? For example, do you always have the exact same office makeup look, or do you mix it up with different products and colors? How wide is your range with makeup — for example, from “no makeup for errands” to “four eyeshadows and three mascaras for date night”?

For my $.02, I have a pretty wide spectrum of makeup looks for different occasions — possibly too wide!

  • Weekend/errands/lounging around makeup: When I was younger I do seem to recall putting on some makeup once I’d finished with my workout, even if I didn’t plan on leaving the house. I have never been the kind of person to put on makeup for workouts, though (fiiine, maybe some tinted lip balm) and by my 20s I spent a lot of my weekends avoiding workouts (you know, the 9 AM planned workout that happens at the last possible moment before you have to start getting ready to go out), so by that time weekend makeup became “no makeup / PARTY MAKEUP.” These days I really have no compunction about going out without makeup, though, particularly if it’s a school dropoff or weekend kid-related errand. (I consider myself #winning so long as I can wash my face and get sunscreen on!)
  • Daily makeup/office makeup: As I’ve written before, makeup for work for me generally means concealer, eyebrow, eyeliner, one color of eyeshadow, mascara, blush, lip liner, lipstick. I tend to have set makeup combinations of eyeliner/eyeshadow/lipstick (so I wear taupe lipstick with greige eyeshadows, but pink lipstick with taupe eyeshadows, for example), but always the same general products applied in the same general way and no more than two or three looks.
  • Work from home makeup: When I only worked from home occasionally, this generally meant “no makeup.” When I started working from home all the time, though, I struggled with this a bit because I had read all this stuff about how if you’re working from home you should “get dressed as if you’re going into the office,” and it conflicted with my previous “no makeup” mentality. Even if I had successfully completed a workout, if it was just me, why should I put on makeup? It all came down to “who am I wearing makeup for anyway”? For some reason, after having kids, daily mascara irritates my eyes, so I didn’t want to do a “full office makeup look,” or at least what that had meant for me previously. I also switched to wearing glasses about 95% of the time around this point, which I also felt necessitated less makeup. (Fun fact: I have uneven eyebrows no mater how much I get them threaded, so when I’m in my glasses the uneven eyebrows are more noticeable, particularly if I darken them with eyebrow powder/gel/liner. But if I’m wearing contacts I absolutely feel like I need to darken them. Shrug.) What I’ve settled on lately for ease of application but a bit more polished than absolutely no makeup is sheer lipstick like a Chubby stick, blush, undereye concealer, waterproof eyeliner, and occasionally a liquid shadow. The routine takes me about two minutes, maybe less. Even now I alternate between three eyeliner colors and different lipstick colors — I wear the brown eyeliner with pinky/berry/purple lipstick and navy eyeliner with taupe lipstick. I’d like to get gray eyeliner in the routine but the current one I have smudges too much; I’m eyeing this one from Chanel, which I have in brown and is amazing.)
  • Must Look Nice But Not Party Makeup (Big Presentation/Job Interview Makeup): For a midday meeting or something, at the very least I put on mascara, refresh my eyeliner and use Touche Eclat on top of my work from home makeup. If I’m starting from a fresh face, though, I’ll put on foundation in addition to concealer, do a little contouring/highlighting, maybe pull out two eyeshadow colors to blend, eyebrow, mascara, blush, and eyeliner. (Loooove the Ecobrow eyebrow wax for these days.)
  • Date night / party makeup: This is where I deviate from what is, in general, a fairly natural look — I like a smoky eye, what can I say? I usually do foundation, concealer, contouring/highlighting/blush, eyeshadow primer, 2-4 eyeshadows (generally all in the same color family), dark eyeliner on top (usually with an added swoop of dark black or dark navy shadow on top of the liner to set it), light eyeliner below my eye (taupey/fawn usually but maybe a faded gray/navy if I’m feeling like it) and usually a pretty neutral lip that somehow takes extra long to apply. I may do a mascara primer as well as mascara (sometimes even layers of different mascaras!), or I may do my One Two Cosmetics lashes. Sometimes I give my husband a choice for the general shadow look (“honey, pick brown, black, purple, or blue”) — sometimes I give my 7-year-old son the choice. I have fun with the date night/party makeup and it’s fun to see myself all dolled up — but it’s a TON more makeup than I normally wear and I worry it’s jarring to people who may, say, only know me a “no makeup/glasses” situation. I also keep collecting red lipsticks in the hope that one day I can get a great red lip with a more natural-but-polished eye look — but I have yet to find a comfortable lip that I can wear for hours without constant monitoring or regret — so I’m not there yet.

So let’s hear it, readers — what are your thoughts on different makeup looks for different occasions? What are your regular looks for office makeup, interview makeup, date night makeup, weekend makeup and other situations? Do you have several makeup looks or just one for each situation? If you work from home regularly, do you wear makeup? How has your makeup changed as you got promoted, got married, had kids, or generally gotten older? (Are there any looks that you think are too “young” for older women, short of, say, Jem’s makeup?) If you occasionally wear glasses, how do you vary your makeup?

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How much do you mix up your makeup looks for different occasions -- and how many different makeup combinations do you have for each situation? What IS your office makeup look, or your weekend makeup look (whether that's party makeup or a look for lounging around the house)? Do tell! 💄💄💄

Should You Tell Your Colleagues About Your ASD?

If you’re doing well in your job, but your supervisor and coworkers don’t know that you have autism, should you tell your colleagues about your ASD? Should you tell them when you interview, when you start work, or only if you need specific accommodations and/or if problems arise? We recently heard from an autistic lawyer who is trying to make that decision:

Reader M asks:

I’ve been recently diagnosed as being on the autism spectrum. It’s not a huge surprise, an assessment was begun when I was a child and discontinued because my parents were concerned about me being labeled. Now, before my diagnosis I skipped three grades, entered law school young enough that I was the youngest woman there for all three years, did incredibly well at my bar exam, and have been successfully employed. Should I go public with my diagnosis? What could go wrong?

This is a really interesting question. We haven’t talked about autism before, but we recently discussed how to manage ADHD in the workplace (incidentally, up to 50% of people with autism show signs of ADHD), and we’ve also shared advice on disclosing other personal/medical information at work, such as how to announce your pregnancy at work, as well as tips for handling frequent doctors’ appointments and making time for therapy.

Note to readers: Some people on the autism spectrum prefer being referred to as “a person with autism,” while others identify themselves as “an autistic person.” (This is framed as person-first vs. identity-first language.) We don’t know what Reader M prefers, so we’re using both.

For readers who don’t know a lot about autism, here are a few facts to frame the conversation about ASD and the office:

We sought advice from the Autistic Self Advocacy Network, which “seeks to advance the principles of the disability rights movement with regard to autism,” and certified coach Barbara Bissonnette, who offers career development, job coaching, and workplace advocacy for people with Asperger’s through Forward Motion Coaching.

Before we share advice from ASAN, we’ll pass on their personal message to Reader M: “Congratulations on learning more about yourself, and for reaching out. We’re glad to know you’re part of our world.” (As their email response was a joint effort, we aren’t attributing their quotes to a single person.) Here is their input:

  1. Realize that being openly autistic at work can have an impact beyond your own experience. “[It] can also help make your workplace more welcoming for autistic and disabled employees who come after you. … [Y]ou can challenge people’s preconceived ideas and make your field more accepting,” say the folks at ASAN.
  2. Still, consider the risks: “People can change the way they see you, or start looking at you through a stereotypical lens,” says ASAN. “Sometimes, if the way they treat you differently is subtle, it can be hard to prove that they are discriminating against you or make them stop.” (Ed. Note: See this recent Ask a Manager post.)
  3. Know that your experience may be a mixed bag: “We know autistic lawyers who are successfully practicing in their fields (we have a couple working here at ASAN!). We have also heard about autistic people being discriminated against in law — for example, an employer limiting an autistic lawyer’s access to clients after learning about their disability.”
  4. Do some research specific to your field: “We aren’t aware of any states which would not let you be admitted to the bar because of an autism diagnosis, but it is a good idea to check your state’s bar questions to be sure. It might also be helpful to check out the ABA’s Commission on Disability Rights, which has a disabled attorney mentoring program.”
  5. Remember, it’s all up to you. “[D]isclosing your disability at work is a personal decision, and it is yours alone to make,” says ASAN.

Here are some of Barbara Bissonnette’s tips for Reader M on whether she should tell her colleagues about her ASD:

  1. Learn how the Americans with Disabilities Act (ADA) protects you — and your employer. Your employer must make “reasonable accommodations for qualified employees who disclose,” says Bissonnette, who adds, “the modification cannot cause an undue hardship to the employer.”
  2. Make a list of the challenges you face at work and be proactive by requesting accommodations. “Make sure that your list does not contain problems related to basic job readiness,” says Bissonnette, who suggests The Job Accommodation Network as a resource, and offers a free guide on her website called Workplace Disclosure Strategies for Individuals with Asperger’s Syndrome & Nonverbal Learning Disorder. You’ll likely need a doctor or another qualified provider to verify your diagnosis, she says.
  3. Make sure HR documents your request and works with your manager. Otherwise, you’re in charge of who knows about your diagnosis. “You can choose to keep it confidential, between human resources and your supervisor,” says Bissonnette. “Or you can identify specific coworkers whom you want to know.”
  4. Be prepared for your employer to counter with alternative accommodations. “Be professional, and demonstrate a positive attitude and willingness to compromise. Making demands and threatening legal action puts the employer on the defensive.”

If you are a lawyer with autism (or work in any another field), what would your advice be for Reader M? In your opinion, should you tell your colleagues about your ASD? If you are open about your autism at work, what have been the pros and cons? Readers with any disability/condition that has led you to request accommodations at work: Were your efforts successful? Would you have done differently? 

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Should you tell your colleagues about your ASD? An autistic lawyer wrote in wondering if she should share her autism spectrum diagnosis with her colleagues, bosses, and clients -- and if so when. We talked to autism experts to get ideas about how to handle ASD and the office for professional women...

The Best Resources for New Managers

Hunting for the best resources for new managers? Whether you’ve been recently promoted to management status or are hoping to get to a supervisor level in the near future, there are many good resources for new managers that are worth checking out, including blogs, videos, books, and podcasts. We’ve rounded up some of our favorites (as well as reader suggestions) for first-time managers below, but we’d love to hear from you! What do you think are the best resources for new managers? If you’ve recently been promoted to manager level, what resources have been the most helpful? What would you recommend to younger women looking to make it to management? 

(Of course, don’t forget to check out our previous posts with advice for new managers, including how to become a better manager, online women’s management training, how to become a better communicator, must-read business books, and how to become a leader. We’ve also talked about executive presence for women leaders, and you may want to check out our tips on how to step up your working wardrobe to get that promotion.)

1. Ask a Manager: Alison Green has been sharing wisdom with managers (and the rest of us!) on her blog since 2007. She has also written a book, she hosts a weekly podcast, and her advice has been published by national publications. A search for “first-time manager” on her site resulted in several results, including her article in U.S. News and World Report with advice for new managers, and a list of the five most important things she says a first-time manager should know, but a Corporette reader suggested putting time aside every week or so to catch up on her posts. As a bonus, the reader comments on Ask a Manager can be helpful as well. Green’s list of her favorite posts of all time will get you started.
2. Harvard Business ReviewWhile HBR is known in the business world for providing results of studies about leadership, their online articles, as well as videos (both on the site and on their YouTube channel), are also valuable to new managers. HBR also offers books about management skills, plus advice for new managers, including a two-book offer for a “New Manager’s Collection” that includes 10 Must Reads for New Managers and Harvard Business Review Manager’s Handbook. In 2018, they launched the Women at Work podcast — the third episode is focused on leading with authenticity.
5. Manager Tools: This reader-recommended podcast was started by two former managers and West Point graduates in 2005. The company also offers online trainings, conferences for managers, downloadable forms that complement the podcasts, and other manager resources. First-time managers may want to start with Manager Tools “Basics,” which includes podcasts about how to be effective at one-on-one meetings, feedback, coaching, and delegation.
6. The Balance Careers: Management and Leadership: This site offers helpful advice to managers at all levels. This post for new managers offers 15 tips, including why you should be prepared even before you are promoted, and how to be an effective leader in your new role in the office.
7. Forbes: Forbes‘ Leadership tab shares several helpful resources for managers, including a recent article, “4 Ways to Master Your First-Time Manager Role.” Forbes also offers podcasts, including interviews with leaders; “Mentoring Moments,” which features advice from successful women; and business news to help you stay on top of your game when it comes to your industry.

Are there any blogs, videos, books, or podcasts we missed? Any other resources you’d add to this list that you would recommend to first-time managers or those looking to take on management positions at some point? Any general advice that goes beyond these resources? Let us know!

Green Cleaning Products That Actually Work

Using eco-friendly cleaning products sounds like a great idea, but not all of them can get the job done — so today we’re sharing tips on green cleaning products that actually work, whether you’re integrating them into your own routines for keeping a clean house or you’re asking your cleaning service to use green cleaning products.

(We’ve talked about the hiring a cleaning professional and discussed our general cleaning systems, and we recently shared the busy woman’s guide to last-minute cleaning, but we’ve never specifically looked at green cleaners. Over at CorporetteMoms we’ve looked at when working moms should hire a cleaning service.)

One product I really like is Method Bathroom Cleaner. It’s not the most effective bathroom cleaner in the world, but it doesn’t irritate my lungs like harsh cleaners do, and it’s safer for my skin. Kat is a fellow fan of Method products — though at her house, it’s Method Daily Shower Spray Cleaner — and she also likes ChemFree Toilet Cleaner (which uses “mineral magnets”) and the Zip-It drain cleaning tool as an alternative to Drano [affiliate links].

To get some more tips on green cleaning products that actually work, I talked to a few professional women who do varying amounts of their housecleaning with green products. One of those is Holly S. of Fairfax, VA, who started using green cleaners more often when her first child reached toddler age. “I’ve read a lot about the chemicals in many mainstream cleaners,” she says. “There are skin irritants, chemicals linked to asthma, carcinogens, not to mention the fact that many are bad for the environment. So I wanted to start using cleaners made from all natural cleaners that would be healthier all the way around.”

DIY Green Cleaning Products That Actually Work

Holly gets her “recipes” for green cleaners from books, such as The Hands-On Home by Erica Strauss [affiliate link], and parenting/natural living blogs, such as Mommypotamus. “A few have been trial and error after reading ideas about how best to clean certain areas and objects, and then I’ve experimented with different ingredients,” she says. Holly makes her own all-purpose cleaner, glass cleaner, floor cleaner (used with a Swiffer-style wet mop), toilet cleaner, and others. “My favorite is a simple all-purpose cleaner, which is made of water, Castile soap, and essential oils,” she says. “It leaves no residue, the citrus oils cut through grease as effectively as any other cleaner I’ve ever used, and certain essential oils even have antimicrobial effects, so they leave my surfaces wonderfully clean.”

Pam Moore, who lives in Boulder, CO, makes cleaning spray with water, vinegar, essential oils (tea tree or peppermint or lemon), and ammonia — sometimes replacing ammonia with Dawn. (Remember to never mix ammonia with bleach.) For homemade laundry detergent, she mixes Borax, washing soda, soap, and water. When she mops the floor with a steam mop, Pam uses water with a few drops of essential oil for a nice scent. “I definitely think the kitchen counter spray and laundry soap work just as well as what I used to buy at the store,” she says.

Emily Farmer Popek of Oneonta, NY, has found green products to be effective, too. “Honestly, the homemade solutions — vinegar, baking soda — work just as well as literally any other cleaning product I’ve ever used, if not better! Especially for cleaning really terrible gunk — like ovens.”

“Recipes” for Green Cleaners:  

  • 10 All-Natural Homemade Cleaning Solutions to Scrub Every Inch of Your Home [Real Simple]
  • 9 Homemade Cleaners You Can Make Yourself [Good Housekeeping]
  • What Really Happens When You Mix Baking Soda with Vinegar? [The Kitchn]
  • Clean Green: Natural Cleaning Products [Martha Stewart]
  • 6 Things That Are Naturally Antibacterial to Safely Disinfect Your Home [Real Simple]

Store-Bought Green Cleaning Products That Actually Work

If you don’t have time to make your own green cleaning products (or just don’t feel like it — that would be me), you have plenty to choose from at the grocery store or Amazon, of course. But the FTC has caught many companies making misleading claims about green products, so how do you know whether to trust the manufacturers’ ads and labeling? Companies aren’t even required to give the complete list of a cleaning product’s ingredients on its label. A few helpful resources from this Washington Post article are the EPA’s Safer Choice label, Whole Foods’ Eco-Scale rating (only for products sold at their stores), and UL’s ECOLOGO Product Certification. Note that The Environmental Working Group may not be the best resource for this — the advocacy group has often been criticized for fear-mongering and incorrect claims.

In addition to her own mixtures, Pam uses store-bought products, such as Method peppermint cleaning spray for the bathroom, and Emily is yet another fan of Method’s offerings. “They make a squirt-and-mop cleaner for wood floors that I LOVE. I don’t like strong fragrances, so that’s a big plus for me,” she says. She has found, however, that green products don’t really cut it when it comes to toilets and tubs. “We have hard water, which leaves a residue on surfaces that’s just REALLY hard to bust up without some serious industrial strength cleansers — and/or a lot of elbow grease!” [affiliate link]

Lawyer/journalist and Corporette contributor Rebecca Berfanger often uses lavender Dr. Bronner’s Pure-Castile Liquid Soap, which can be used for all sorts of home tasks, such as cleaning the bathtub, and is part of this DIY laundry detergent recipe. (The description on the Dr. Bronner’s website recommends their Castile soap for “Face, body, hair & food, dishes, laundry, mopping, pets” — and it’s fair-trade, too.) Rebecca also likes a green laundry detergent called ECOS. She uses green cleaning products (such as these Green Works wipes) for cleaning things her cats will be in close contact with — and for household spot cleaning, she uses either the wipes or a green cleaning spray.

Further reading:

  • The Best Natural Cleaning Products [The Strategist]
  • 8 Green Cleaning Products [Real Simple]
  • An expert’s choice for the best eco-friendly cleaning supplies [Today]

If you’re interested in making your own housecleaning a bit more environmentally-friendly, you don’t have to rush out and buy a lot of green products or start putting together elaborate concoctions in your kitchen. Emily has this advice: “I honestly would recommend starting off by seeing what you can do with, yes, vinegar and baking soda. It’s truly amazing how many cleaning products you can replace with just those two ingredients! And for me it was empowering to be able to start with something that was already right there in my cupboard.”

Note: For this post, we do recognize that anecdotes do not equal science (check out this article by Wirecutter’s science editor, who has a PhD in chemistry), but the cleaners used by the women we talked to clearly work for them! Also, note that the word “natural” doesn’t have an official meaning, and “green” can be vague, too — but they’re hard to avoid in a post like this. 

Have you found green cleaning products that actually work? Have you hired a cleaning service that uses green cleaners? Why did you make the switch? (Are there certain chemicals you’re especially worried about?) Do you make your own or use store-bought? Which ones have you found that work really well, and which haven’t really been up to the task? Do you find yourself spending more or less money with environmentally-friendly cleaning? 

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Trying to do more eco-friendly cleaning, either due to pets, kids, allergies or just environmental concerns? We rounded up the best green cleaning products that actually work, whether they're for your own cleaning routines or to ask your cleaning service to use...

How Working Mothers Can Have a Successful Careers

Days are gone when mothers stay at home to just watch over the kids and do the household chores while fathers are the ones who work to provide for the family. Those days are long gone. Women are now empowered to remain as professionals while taking care of a growing a family. But juggling work and family is no easy task – it’s a really tough challenge that will take a lot of dedication and extra effort. 

This article can help working mothers come up with the best career plan so that they can be successful career women while being the best moms they can be as well. 

Your mind should be present where you’re physically present 

The first thing that working mother should keep in mind is actually about where their minds should be. A lot of working mothers tend to have wandering minds: thinking about home while at work, then thinking about work while at home. This is not only unhealthy but also counterproductive. 

A working mother’s entire presence should be where she physically is i.e., work during work, and home when at home. Your focus should be on the tasks at hand, and not the things that cannot be done at the moment. So be sure that someone takes care of the household needs during working hour. Also, avoid doing work-related duties while at home. If there’s a dire need to do something that cannot be delayed, make sure that this is not done during quality time with the kids. 

The key takeaway here is managing time. A working mother should make the right use of time where is to always get the best results of whatever she does. 

Take a break 

While the first tip revolves about being fully committed to the tasks at hand, it should not be taken as if these things are all that should be done. Mother duties and office duties are both considered as work and one should not be working 100% of the time. Breaks are needed in order to remain efficient. 

But acknowledging the need for a break is one thing, and actually taking a break is another. Working mothers should set time away from both the office and the family. Working mothers should set time for relaxing, giving both the body and the mind some time to recuperate. And when a time has been set, this time should be taken. 

Recognize the need for help 

Whether at home or at work, when help is needed, ask for it. A lot of working moms tend to feel that asking for help is embarrassing but this should not be the case. There should be a realization that working together can make things a lot better. 

At work, when there are things that cannot be done alone, working with a colleague can help bring about results that can go beyond expectations. At home, working together with all the members of the family can definitely bring everyone closer and makes life a lot more manageable. 

Acknowledging the need for help, and actually getting it can make a huge difference – and this makes it easier for working mothers to make greater leaps in life. 

Take inspiration but never compare 

It’s always a good idea to have a vision of oneself to be like someone successful. Some believe that the best career plan has a concrete figure to imitate – someone that can be looked up to. But while it is good to be inspired, what’s not good is that this sometimes leads to the need to compare. 

Understand that people go through unique circumstances in life, so what happened to someone will not always happen to someone else. So, do not feel bad if the efforts being taken are not leading to where the role model has gone. 

Working mothers should not compare their lives to very successful people as this might just lead to self-pity. It’s also not nice to compare one’s life to someone less successful because just to feel better. The best thing to do is set a unique goal for both career and family and do all that can be done to achieve this. Do this without the need to compare to others. Be a successful working mother in your own right. 

To Be a Successful Working Mother, Think and Act Like One 

The above tips are part of the best career plan for successful working mothers. The guide has laid out how successful working mothers should think because all it really takes to be a successful working mother is to think like one and to consequentially act like one. These steps have taken working mothers 4 steps closer to a successful career so take it now and make a leap.